Last year, after embarking on quite a lot of personal development myself, I decided to write my first eCourse on the topic. A couple of hundred people took the course and I’ve enjoyed mentoring, and continue to mentor a few of the people that took it. The time has come to retire the course and make space for new projects. It seemed a waste to just throw it away, so I’ve decided to post it here. I hope you find it useful.
Part 1 – Awareness
Part 2 – Motivation
Part 3 – Your Lifestyle Blueprint
Part 4 – Your Map
Part 5 – Mindset and Your People
In any job it’s important to have and develop skills. In life it’s the same, you may have some natural ability in some skill areas but I’m sure there’s room for improvement. Over the next few weeks I want you to develop some life skills that will help you on your journey. If you were embarking on a long mission, or running a marathon you would put some work in first to get prepared.
I used to be in the TA (territorial army) and we would spend many hours practising rifle skills, survival and building up our mental and physical fitness. Thankfully they never sent me to war! But if you were going to war you would do the same, right?
Well this journey you’re going on is no less important. Your life depends on you completing this journey. You may have made promises to yourself in the past, but this time it’s different.
Set your goal and put it in your diary, keep yourself accountable.
Did you know that in a Harvard study the people who set goals achieved 80% more than those that didn’t.
Have you put that goal in your diary yet?
Ok. That goal and date is logged in your diary. That’s your commitment to yourself.
Your second commitment to yourself is to train yourself up.
This is your war to win.
Today’s skill is goal setting and achieving goals.
You will need to get very good at goal setting and achieving goals. You will use this skill multiple times on your journey.
It’s easy to change your life, but it’s easier not to.
Do you want to succeed?
If you didn’t wholeheartedly say yes to that last question then go back and have a look at your reason why. If you aren’t close to tears or emotional in some other way right now then your reason why isn’t big enough.
There will be days when you wake up and you feel less motivated than you do right now.
That’s where your goals come in.
There are days when all sorts of shit lands on you and you feel like you don’t want to do the right things.
That’s where your goals come in.
There are days when someone tells you you can’t.
That’s when you tell them to naff off and worry about their own life
Your Big Goals
Your goal setting began when you came up with some of your big life goals. These goals may bend or change over time.
There is only one thing you need to know about these goals; these goals should always be a true reflection on what you really want to achieve. Never revise your big goals down to what you think you can achieve. None of us know what we’re capable of. Small goals encourage small thinking and small action. Big goals encourage big thinking and big action.
Scared of not getting there? Will you achieve more by even just setting the big goal?
Aim for the stars and land in the clouds, that’s not a bad place to be.
Sometimes when we try and set these big goals that little voice inside can try and put us off – you’re too old, you’re too young, you’re too poor. There are plenty of old, young and poor people that have done great things. That’s not the voice of reason, that’s the voice of fear.
Your ‘Step’ Goals
After you set your big goals you began creating ‘milestone’ and ‘step’ goals, you began planning your route. This is your chance to be realistic.
Even I’m not daft enough to think I can become Scotland’s leading online marketer by next week. I can however create one piece of premium content a day. I can aim to assist a new client each quarter. I can share my expertise online. These are manageable things that I can achieve. Eventually, when I achieve enough of these step goals and milestones I will reach my big goal.
‘Milestone’ goals are usually quarterly events, or thereabouts. ‘Step’ goals are weekly and monthly. These ‘step’ goals are translated into daily tasks. Why? Because life is busy and there are days when we forget to eat and can’t remember our own name. On these days you just get up and look at your task for that day, and then you do it. In my business I call this ‘doing the money work first’, it’s valuing my goals and work enough to do the important thing first. When you start putting your goals, desires and ambitions first you will experience a big shift.
By putting your goals, desires and ambitions first you ensure you’re constantly moving forward. Other people begin to understand that nothing will keep you from achieving what you set out to. People will give up trying to dissuade you, others will look to you for inspiration and encouragement so they too can make the shift. Your children will learn from you, they will go on to put their own goals, dreams and ambitions first.
I do not believe in wishing for things to happen or waiting for life to drop your ambitions in your lap, BUT something happens when you start prioritising the things that are important to you. Opportunities do come, you hone in on what you need to complete your milestone or journey. Other people get to know about your journey and before long they are helping you with what you need (they gave up dissuading you a long time ago).
One final thing. When you raise your own standards you pull everyone else up around you.
I have an eight year old daughter. She watches me. She says things I say. She does things I do.
Every time I raise my ambitions, I raise hers too.
You’ve heard the saying ‘be the change you want to see in the world’, well I think it’s about being the change you want to see in your friends, family and children. Change starts at home, with one person. That person is you.
Keep setting goals and keep achieving them. You’ll be doing better than 80% of people by just doing that. You cannot fail if you do this.