Last year, after embarking on quite a lot of personal development myself, I decided to write my first eCourse on the topic. A couple of hundred people took the course and I’ve enjoyed mentoring, and continue to mentor a few of the people that took it. The time has come to retire the course and make space for new projects. It seemed a waste to just throw it away, so I’ve decided to post it here. I hope you find it useful.
Part 1 – Awareness
Part 2 – Motivation
Part 3 – Your Lifestyle Blueprint
Part 4 – Your Map
Part 5 – Mindset and Your People
Part 6 – Setting and Achieving Goals
Part 7 – Managing Your Money and The Fulfillment Curve
Part 8 – Developing an Entrepreneurial Mindset
Part 9 – Managing Relationships and Building Your Network
There may come a time when you worry that you do not have the confidence to do what you need to do. Whether it’s confronting family about your plans, leaving a job or starting a new venture, you need confidence.
I view confidence as a muscle, the more you exercise it the more it grows.
At the moment you may feel like your confidence muscle is weak, and that’s fine because there are plenty of ways for you to build up your confidence.
Step 1 – Achievable goals
Make sure that the first few ‘step’ goals on your plan are relatively easy to achieve. Success breeds confidence, don’t set yourself up to fail from the outset.
Step 2 – A bit of your own medicine
People who are low in confidence still give very good advice. When you’re struggling, turn the tables, what advice would you give if this was someone else? We can be incredibly hard on ourselves, when in the same situation you would be very supportive of someone else.
When you’re stuck or unsure you have what it takes, give yourself the advice you’d give to a friend and turn your negative self talk into positive.
Step 3 – Work that muscle!
If they are to grow, muscles need to be exercised. Aim to do something new or challenging that works your confidence muscle every week. You probably spend most of your life in your ‘comfort zone’ (most of us do!). You don’t want to push yourself into the ‘panic zone’, that’s counter-productive. So aim for the sweet spot in the middle known as your ‘stretch zone’. Over time, things that were once challenging become a part of your comfort zone and things that would have once pushed you into your panic zone now sit nicely in your stretch zone.
Commit to getting out of your comfort zone and you’ll begin developing all the confidence you need.
What ‘stretch zone’ activity will you do this week?
Step 4 – Turn the sound up on your ‘can’ people
There are two types of people in this world – can people, and can’t people.
Can people are positive
Can’t people are negative
Can people want you to succeed
Can’t people want you to fail for fear you’ll get ahead
Can people boost your confidence
Can’t people undermine your confidence
Can people celebrate your successes with you
Can’t people play down your successes
Can people help you see the learning points when you fail
Can’t people emphasise your failures and use them to demonstrate how they were ‘right all along’
Can people are on their own journey and/or are highly supportive of yours
Can’t people feel jealous or threatened by your journey
Turn the sound down on can’t people. Turn the sound UP on can people.
This may well be the biggest thing you can do to increase your confidence right now.
Step 5 – Evidence of success
To have got this far in life you have already succeeded at many things. Create a scrapbook, file or picture board that reflects all your successes to date. That’s right, everything…
Have you learned to swim?
Can you read?
Have you been a good parent?
Have you learned to cook?
Did you get any certificates at school?
Have you helped someone?
Do you have special skills?
What qualifications do you have?
What about yourself makes you proud?
Success comes in many forms. Gather together all your successes and display them. Be loud and proud. Do this for everyone in your family, everyone deserves to recognise and be recognised for their success.
Success breeds success.
Make your home somewhere all achievements are celebrated.
Be the change – if you lack confidence, make it your goal to foster high levels of confidence in yourself and your family this week, and every week.