Comments on: What’s Holding You Back?

By: Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 08:04:40 +0000

My stupid belief that if something is not perfect then it is somehow not as worthwhile. I am having to learn very quickly that things cannot be perfect but are still good since becoming a mum! I am learning that having a go is perfectly fine.

By: Little Mummy

Little Mummy — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 22:36:38 +0000

Josie – I think then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, you fail by not even trying, which dents your self-esteem and then it’s a vicious circle.

I guess it’s about breaking the cycle and as you say taking the risks.

By: Josie @Sleep is for the Weak

Josie @Sleep is for the Weak — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 22:28:51 +0000

Oh yes yes yes. It is the fear of failing with me too. If I feel that there is the slightest chance I might not do something perfectly, I instinctively react by feeling a should not even try at all. It’s not even other people, it’s me. I have a need to do well, to be top of the class. I know I make others proud, I just wish I could make ME proud too. I am trying, to take more risks, to not be afraid of doing things badly but just DO! but it is hard. Really really hard.

By: Little Mummy

Little Mummy — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:30:28 +0000

Madhouse – All we can do is try ps I’m loving your advent posts.

By: Little Mummy

Little Mummy — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:29:16 +0000

Muddynosugar – can empathise with IBS and body issues, I have crohns and it’s something I’ve had to come to terms with, I’m not sure how the disease will play out, I just hope its kind to me.

By: TheMadHouse

TheMadHouse — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:18:19 +0000

I have a book about feeling the fear, but not living with it. It is a very buddest thing…

I am trying, but it isn’t always successful

By: Muddynosugar

Muddynosugar — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:00:02 +0000

My friends think I am successful, my team trust me and follow me, my children (I hope) will look up to me and be proud, but deep down I worry about everything and I am quite anxious and as I have got older my body is showing the physical ravages of this (IBS, Daily tablets for acid indigestion). Do I have a fear of failing – God yes, am I doing what I really want to, NO. Unfortunately it is human to doubt our own abilities and one insenstive comment given to a child will haunt them forever and hold them back. So can we stop holding ourselves back? I don’t know, but I do know we can do everything we can for the next generation so they don’t hold back.. My goodness, massive rant – apologies, you obviously hit a nerve.

By: Little Mummy

Little Mummy — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 17:33:09 +0000

Insomniac Mummy – are we talking about offline people, because I’ve experienced a bit of that too, but now I realise that a lot of it is a lack of understanding, a lot of people just don’t ‘get it’. Don’t let it put you off, you’ve come a long way in a short space of time, I think you’re destined for good things

By: Little Mummy

Little Mummy — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 17:29:49 +0000

Great advice Fiona, are we all just blagging it a little bit? I think the really successful people out there were just a bit better at blagging it until they got going.

By: Insomniac Mummy

Insomniac Mummy — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:43:09 +0000

Oh and that should say relate not realte. Gah.