Who Comes First in Your House?
Who comes first in your house? Your kids, your husband, the dog or….choke….you?
More celeb news fodder from Raising Kids reports that Seal and Heidi (is it just me or is that an odd coupling?) put their own relationship above their kids. They say this is the secret to a happy family life.
Is it selfishness to put your relationship before the kids, or are Heidi and Seal spot on?
I’ve been pondering this a lot over the past week or so…and…I think their spot on. As Seal pointed out family life began with two people in love, and all going well will end with two people in love. It’s important that the relationship is given the attention it needs because without it the whole family unit falls apart.
In many homes I think it’s the children who definitely come first. Attention, energy and money(!) is poured towards them leaving parents feeling frazzled, poor and undervalued. Often parents, and I’m going to stick my neck on the line and say especially mums side with children in discussions over everything from pocket money to bedtimes to chores, leaving one parent (usually Dad) feeling disempowered. This kind of control and level of power can’t be good for kids. Surely the family home needs a hierarchy to make it run smoothly and both parents need to take their rightful place at the head of that hierarchy, backing each other, supporting each other, and making time for each other, ensuring that together they can raise their children to the best of their joint abilities.
My own conclusion is that by putting our relationship first is indirectly placing your children first too, after all its in their interest that mum and dad stay together too.
Who comes first in your house?


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Above is me with my beloved Ernie in Port Aventura and left with our love child in Florida.


