Comments on: Littlemummy Discusses Abortion – Part 1 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/ Life, Parenting, Making a Living Wed, 08 Feb 2012 08:40:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By:   You Want To Do What? - Book Review by Littlemummy.Com http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-57804   You Want To Do What? - Book Review by Littlemummy.Com Sun, 14 Oct 2007 11:58:58 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-57804 [...] Abortion [...] [...] Abortion [...]

]]> By: Little Mummy http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49234 Little Mummy Wed, 01 Aug 2007 07:21:23 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49234 Both great points Leisa and Amie, it's such a difficult one.. Both great points Leisa and Amie, it’s such a difficult one..

]]> By: Amie http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49174 Amie Wed, 01 Aug 2007 00:05:17 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49174 I don't exactly understand the law in this regard. I don't know how it is in Britain, but in the USA a school nurse can not give a child a Tylenol without parental consent, but they can load them on a bus in the middle of the school day and take them to an abortion clinic (yes, it is legal in many states for the school to facilitate the abortion). Abortions are major medical procedures. I don't give two hoots about a child's reproductive rights... I care about protecting my children's health. There are thousands of possible complications that go along with an abortion, not the least of which is (though rare) death. If my child is going to undergo a major medical procedure, I have every right to know the details, follow up care needed, and signs of complications to watch for. I don’t exactly understand the law in this regard. I don’t know how it is in Britain, but in the USA a school nurse can not give a child a Tylenol without parental consent, but they can load them on a bus in the middle of the school day and take them to an abortion clinic (yes, it is legal in many states for the school to facilitate the abortion). Abortions are major medical procedures. I don’t give two hoots about a child’s reproductive rights… I care about protecting my children’s health.
There are thousands of possible complications that go along with an abortion, not the least of which is (though rare) death. If my child is going to undergo a major medical procedure, I have every right to know the details, follow up care needed, and signs of complications to watch for.

]]> By: Leisa http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49153 Leisa Tue, 31 Jul 2007 21:47:21 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49153 Sure you can't trust all parents to help kids make the right choice, but you also can't trust the 'system'. In such an emotionally charged area people tend to push young woman (and children) in directions based on their own dogma! I agree that as a parent its scary - whatever choice is made there are huge and long term effects on the woman/child. Sure you can’t trust all parents to help kids make the right choice, but you also can’t trust the ‘system’. In such an emotionally charged area people tend to push young woman (and children) in directions based on their own dogma! I agree that as a parent its scary – whatever choice is made there are huge and long term effects on the woman/child.

]]> By: LindaF http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49114 LindaF Tue, 31 Jul 2007 17:25:04 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49114 I've had this conversation with friends. Those that have young girls and I can sympathize and understand that as a loving, concerned parent you do want to know for your daughter's sake more than your own. Sadly, I've come to believe that in America anyway, the number of understanding and supportive parents does not outweigh those that are mired in their own close-minded, outdated, utlra-conservative views about sex. Laws such as these are there to prevent injury, either by parents or by the girl who doesn't seek proper treatment and chooses to try to terminate on her own to avoid the repercussions if her parents find out. I feel that parents that form a healthy loving relationship with their daughters will find that she will inform them anway, by her own choice. I’ve had this conversation with friends. Those that have young girls and I can sympathize and understand that as a loving, concerned parent you do want to know for your daughter’s sake more than your own.

Sadly, I’ve come to believe that in America anyway, the number of understanding and supportive parents does not outweigh those that are mired in their own close-minded, outdated, utlra-conservative views about sex.

Laws such as these are there to prevent injury, either by parents or by the girl who doesn’t seek proper treatment and chooses to try to terminate on her own to avoid the repercussions if her parents find out.

I feel that parents that form a healthy loving relationship with their daughters will find that she will inform them anway, by her own choice.

]]> By: Karen Lynch-Live the Power http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49107 Karen Lynch-Live the Power Tue, 31 Jul 2007 16:19:00 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49107 I would want to know and to be able to offer my unconditional love and acceptance at that time. However, too many parents tend to "control" and to not listen throughout childhood and they "teach" (albeit unconsciously) their children not to trust or to confide in them. If we want to have an unconditional loving relationship with our children we need to start when they are young, and we need to accept them and their ideas (especially the ones that may collide with our own) without judgment. Our children are not mini replica's of us but they are their own "person" and as parents we need to teach them that they are wonderful and empowered and we absolutely love them-UNCONDITIONALLY! (whether their viewpoint agrees with ours or not!) Too many young girls are afraid of their parents "judgment". They are afraid to express conflicting opinions or biases because of that "judgment". It is especially evident when the parents are part of an oppresive religion. Okay, I shall now step down from my soapbox! Thank you! I would want to know and to be able to offer my unconditional love and acceptance at that time. However, too many parents tend to “control” and to not listen throughout childhood and they “teach” (albeit unconsciously) their children not to trust or to confide in them.
If we want to have an unconditional loving relationship with our children we need to start when they are young, and we need to accept them and their ideas (especially the ones that may collide with our own) without judgment. Our children are not mini replica’s of us but they are their own “person” and as parents we need to teach them that they are wonderful and empowered and we absolutely love them-UNCONDITIONALLY! (whether their viewpoint agrees with ours or not!)
Too many young girls are afraid of their parents “judgment”. They are afraid to express conflicting opinions or biases because of that “judgment”. It is especially evident when the parents are part of an oppresive religion.
Okay, I shall now step down from my soapbox!
Thank you!

]]> By: Holly Schwendiman http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49104 Holly Schwendiman Tue, 31 Jul 2007 15:56:06 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49104 You know what's sad to me is the lack of balance in options presented to women with unplanned pregnancies. I went to a site this week just for pregant concerns, info and help. Of the 4 main buttons on the site two were related to abortion - getting one and life after one. While I appreciated the detailed and balanced information presented on the abortion option I was saddened that the other options were like tiny "oh by the way" thoughts at the very bottom of the page. Adoption wasn't even discussed with help only the number of women who choose it each year. From my perspective and through my personal experience I know there is no such thing as an unwanted baby/child, only a lack of knowledge and help getting the two sides together. I think that the real tragedy is that abortion is the first and most common choice when there are other really good options too. Hugs, Holly You know what’s sad to me is the lack of balance in options presented to women with unplanned pregnancies. I went to a site this week just for pregant concerns, info and help. Of the 4 main buttons on the site two were related to abortion – getting one and life after one. While I appreciated the detailed and balanced information presented on the abortion option I was saddened that the other options were like tiny “oh by the way” thoughts at the very bottom of the page. Adoption wasn’t even discussed with help only the number of women who choose it each year. From my perspective and through my personal experience I know there is no such thing as an unwanted baby/child, only a lack of knowledge and help getting the two sides together. I think that the real tragedy is that abortion is the first and most common choice when there are other really good options too.

Hugs,
Holly

]]> By: Little Mummy http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49093 Little Mummy Tue, 31 Jul 2007 14:43:51 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49093 Gill - Yeah, I know... I guess what really matters is the safety of the girls not the fact, that we, as parents, feel the need to support. Gill – Yeah, I know… I guess what really matters is the safety of the girls not the fact, that we, as parents, feel the need to support.

]]> By: Gill http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49083 Gill Tue, 31 Jul 2007 13:16:15 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49083 The law in South Africa has just been changed to allow girls from the age of 12 to have abortions without parental consent. Initially I was horrified, I have a 12 year old daughter and the thought of her facing this kind of situation alone is just unbearable. According to the media, the reasoning behind it is exactly as Dave mentioned in his comment. In this country particularly, there is SO much child rape and sexual assault by family members - sad but true, so I suppose the laws have to provide for that, as horrifying as it seems. The law in South Africa has just been changed to allow girls from the age of 12 to have abortions without parental consent. Initially I was horrified, I have a 12 year old daughter and the thought of her facing this kind of situation alone is just unbearable. According to the media, the reasoning behind it is exactly as Dave mentioned in his comment. In this country particularly, there is SO much child rape and sexual assault by family members – sad but true, so I suppose the laws have to provide for that, as horrifying as it seems.

]]> By: Dave http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49080 Dave Tue, 31 Jul 2007 11:01:10 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/30/littlemummy-discusses-abortion-part-1/#comment-49080 Exactly - it's not the law's place in that situation to dictate who gets told or not. It's the decision of the person going through that experience. Exactly – it’s not the law’s place in that situation to dictate who gets told or not. It’s the decision of the person going through that experience.

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