Comments on: Why I’m Content with One Child http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/ Thu, 04 Dec 2008 18:18:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Little Mummy http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-80723 Little Mummy Thu, 21 Feb 2008 07:41:39 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-80723 Seems like deep down you know what is right :) Seems like deep down you know what is right :)

]]> By: Nicole http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-80691 Nicole Thu, 21 Feb 2008 03:41:21 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-80691 Like a lot of people I am struggling with the decision about how many children to have. I had my daughter at 34 and now I am 40. I had a hideous pregancy, traumatic birth and then a nice dose of post-natal depression. I really think I would only be having another child for my daughter's sake, and I'm not even sure that she wants a brother and sister. She says her friends siblings are very annoying when they come to visit, they are loud and break her toys and she wouldn't want that to happen everyday. She is a happy, well-adjusted girl, popular with her teacher and has lots of friends. My mum was an only child and loved it. My dad has a brother, but has spoken to him for about ten years now. I also have a brother and we're not close. I think I just want to ensure that my daughter is always happy - and who says that a sibling will make her even happier than she already is. We are a very happy, very close family and our daughter doesn't have to miss out on anything. The hardest thing for us is that we don't have any friends with an only child - but there are quite a few in her class at school. My whole family are against me having another child due to my health complications the first time around and my husband believes it is entirely my decision. I have a feeling things will stay the way they are and we will all be fine. Like a lot of people I am struggling with the decision about how many children to have. I had my daughter at 34 and now I am 40. I had a hideous pregancy, traumatic birth and then a nice dose of post-natal depression. I really think I would only be having another child for my daughter’s sake, and I’m not even sure that she wants a brother and sister. She says her friends siblings are very annoying when they come to visit, they are loud and break her toys and she wouldn’t want that to happen everyday. She is a happy, well-adjusted girl, popular with her teacher and has lots of friends. My mum was an only child and loved it. My dad has a brother, but has spoken to him for about ten years now. I also have a brother and we’re not close. I think I just want to ensure that my daughter is always happy - and who says that a sibling will make her even happier than she already is. We are a very happy, very close family and our daughter doesn’t have to miss out on anything. The hardest thing for us is that we don’t have any friends with an only child - but there are quite a few in her class at school. My whole family are against me having another child due to my health complications the first time around and my husband believes it is entirely my decision. I have a feeling things will stay the way they are and we will all be fine.

]]> By: liza http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-49079 liza Tue, 31 Jul 2007 10:30:17 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-49079 I m a mother of gorgeous 3 year old girl. My choice is not to have another child due to several reasons, such as economical, time, afraid of a second birth, want to give my child the best. I m receiving a lot of pressure from friends, family and my husband on having another child. They all claim that if I love my daughter I must provide her with a company by having another child. I always feel the need to defend my decision and that makes me feel worst every time. I can understand how you feel and I know that society is having a lot of difficulty respecting one’s choice if this choice is out of the ordinary. I m a mother of gorgeous 3 year old girl. My choice is not to have another child due to several reasons, such as economical, time, afraid of a second birth, want to give my child the best.
I m receiving a lot of pressure from friends, family and my husband on having another child. They all claim that if I love my daughter I must provide her with a company by having another child. I always feel the need to defend my decision and that makes me feel worst every time.
I can understand how you feel and I know that society is having a lot of difficulty respecting one’s choice if this choice is out of the ordinary.

]]> By: Linda http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-48008 Linda Sun, 22 Jul 2007 11:00:58 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-48008 I have one brother and I always thought I would have two children. (It wasn't until I had complications in my twin pregnancy that my mum confided that she was carrying twins and lost one when she had me.) Anyway I was over the moon to have two at once, and have never understood why friends or virtual strangers for that matter, would want to stop me in my tracks and ask: "Are you having any more?" Now and again I think it would have been nice to have another one, possibly a boy, and if it had happened then fine, but most of all I know that any more would have done me in! I have been blighted by bouts of depression and have been knackered a lot of the time. There's nothing "selfish" in deciding how may children you want, rather that than be an unhappy, resentful mum. I look at Emily and Melissa and the relationship we have and treasure that, I didn't want this to be "watered down" by any more children - plus there is a much higher incidence of twins a second time around - one in 16 (it's one in 70 otherwise) so I was, quite frankly, terrified! Nor do I think that children without brothers or sisters miss out - while I was growing up, I had close friends whom I considered as close as sisters and still do now - they are much closer to me than my brother nowadays. So long as they are loved, that's what matters! I have one brother and I always thought I would have two children. (It wasn’t until I had complications in my twin pregnancy that my mum confided that she was carrying twins and lost one when she had me.)

Anyway I was over the moon to have two at once, and have never understood why friends or virtual strangers for that matter, would want to stop me in my tracks and ask: “Are you having any more?”

Now and again I think it would have been nice to have another one, possibly a boy, and if it had happened then fine, but most of all I know that any more would have done me in! I have been blighted by bouts of depression and have been knackered a lot of the time.

There’s nothing “selfish” in deciding how may children you want, rather that than be an unhappy, resentful mum. I look at Emily and Melissa and the relationship we have and treasure that, I didn’t want this to be “watered down” by any more children - plus there is a much higher incidence of twins a second time around - one in 16 (it’s one in 70 otherwise) so I was, quite frankly, terrified!

Nor do I think that children without brothers or sisters miss out - while I was growing up, I had close friends whom I considered as close as sisters and still do now - they are much closer to me than my brother nowadays. So long as they are loved, that’s what matters!

]]> By: Little Mummy http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47578 Little Mummy Thu, 19 Jul 2007 10:54:47 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47578 JHS - I don't mind the question, however, I always feel the need to defend my decision, that's probably more to do with me than them :) JHS - I don’t mind the question, however, I always feel the need to defend my decision, that’s probably more to do with me than them :)

]]> By: Little Mummy http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47577 Little Mummy Thu, 19 Jul 2007 10:53:35 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47577 Hi llana, Thanks for stopping by, my crohn's is quite well managed, however, I suffer quite badly from re-occurring absesses, although this is a pain in the ass (quite literally) I wouldn't let it be the only reason for me not to have another. Feel free to contact me via the contact page (link is at the top) which comes directly to my email. Hi llana,

Thanks for stopping by, my crohn’s is quite well managed, however, I suffer quite badly from re-occurring absesses, although this is a pain in the ass (quite literally) I wouldn’t let it be the only reason for me not to have another.

Feel free to contact me via the contact page (link is at the top) which comes directly to my email.

]]> By: Ilana http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47546 Ilana Thu, 19 Jul 2007 06:04:06 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47546 Hi - I just read this coming from your comment on doulamamma about you having Crohn's. I have indeterminate colitis and want a large family - my colitis is mild although I tend to get ill towards the end of every pregnancy and end up exhausted for the labour and afterwards - but I still think it's worth it. It's also hard juggling medications with breast feeding and pregnancy. Obviously your family is up to you, but if you would like support with your illness I'm in a similar boat and would love to be in touch. Ilana Hi - I just read this coming from your comment on doulamamma about you having Crohn’s. I have indeterminate colitis and want a large family - my colitis is mild although I tend to get ill towards the end of every pregnancy and end up exhausted for the labour and afterwards - but I still think it’s worth it. It’s also hard juggling medications with breast feeding and pregnancy.
Obviously your family is up to you, but if you would like support with your illness I’m in a similar boat and would love to be in touch.
Ilana

]]> By: JHS http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47508 JHS Thu, 19 Jul 2007 01:05:00 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47508 #1Son was going to be an only child, but as BigBob put it upon looking at the pg. test, "God had a better idea." Our lives would not be complete without Mattie-Boo. This is an issue that is your business only, no one else's. BigBob was an only child and never felt unhappy or deprived by not having siblings. The only right answer is the one that's right for your family And as to nosy people asking about another child? Just say, "None ya!" (As in "none ya bizness.") :-) #1Son was going to be an only child, but as BigBob put it upon looking at the pg. test, “God had a better idea.” Our lives would not be complete without Mattie-Boo. This is an issue that is your business only, no one else’s. BigBob was an only child and never felt unhappy or deprived by not having siblings. The only right answer is the one that’s right for your family And as to nosy people asking about another child? Just say, “None ya!” (As in “none ya bizness.”) :-)

]]> By: Little Mummy http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47311 Little Mummy Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:07:47 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47311 MaL- it's not disloyal to The Bean, it's just about what feels right for the family. Rose - I'm in the same place on the career thing, and I wouldn't want to put the new baby in full time childcare, having devoted myself to Erin full time it would seem somewhat unfair. For me, it's case of, if you can't do the job well, don't do it at all. MaL- it’s not disloyal to The Bean, it’s just about what feels right for the family.

Rose - I’m in the same place on the career thing, and I wouldn’t want to put the new baby in full time childcare, having devoted myself to Erin full time it would seem somewhat unfair. For me, it’s case of, if you can’t do the job well, don’t do it at all.

]]> By: IngeniousRose http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47302 IngeniousRose Tue, 17 Jul 2007 18:55:18 +0000 http://www.littlemummy.com/2007/07/17/why-im-content-with-one-child/#comment-47302 Hi Littlemummy, I had my daughter when I was 30 and I'm 34 now. I have 2 brothers and a sister and would hate to be an only child as they are great. However I simply have no desire to have another child. I want to develop some sort of full time career now and be the best mother I can to the gorgeous child I have. As well as this I am a single parent. My daughter and I are a special team so it's just going to remain the 2 of us. Hi Littlemummy, I had my daughter when I was 30 and I’m 34 now. I have 2 brothers and a sister and would hate to be an only child as they are great. However I simply have no desire to have another child. I want to develop some sort of full time career now and be the best mother I can to the gorgeous child I have. As well as this I am a single parent. My daughter and I are a special team so it’s just going to remain the 2 of us.

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