27 Apr
Posted by Little Mummy as Just for Fun, Motherhood, Pregnancy
Socially recognised mothering standards eh? Yeah, you know, all that stuff that as a mother you are expected to do and the unsaid standards you are expected to keep [at all times].
1. One should work until they drop (literally) before beginning maternity leave, you should be so tired you can barely stand up and proceed to give birth the very next day. You should brag to other mothers about said martyrdom.
2. One should have a natural birth which should involve rose petals, water and classical music. Screaming, pain, gore, and pain relief should definitely not feature. One should ALWAYS brag though, if they had a difficult birth and much pain was endured (without pain relief).
3. One should breastfeed their newborn cherub the moment it exits the birth canal, even if they are utterly exhausted and all they want is a nice warm shower. Under no cicumstances should you either accept or ask for the ‘F’ word. (formula)
4. If one has had a Caesarean (which must never be elective) one must bounce right out of bed after only a few hours and proceed with normal daily life as if no major surgery has been undertaken, one must always listen to the nurses when they say you CAN get out of bed, and always ingnore one’s inner voice telling them they are about to pass out.
5. Once home with the newborn one should take to mothering with gusto and confidence, receiving visitors, whilst simultaneously breastfeeding, writing thank you cards for copious amounts of gifts and cooking homemade suppers.
6. One should resume normal sexual activity, preferably, within the week.
7. One should ‘find’ her figure and return to the size 10 skinny jeans within the fortnight. One should ALWAYS brag to her not-so-fortunate friends.
8. One’s beautiful bouncing baby should be ’sleeping through’ any time before six weeks to qualify for bragging rights.
Just a bit of fun, but a bit of truth too, please add your own!
7 Responses
Dave
April 28th, 2007 at 2:00 am
1None to add, not being a mother, but this is a great post!
Motheratlarge
April 28th, 2007 at 10:32 am
2“Rose petals, water and classical music” - ah, yes, I remember the pressure in that direction, though even during my NCT ante-natal classes I had my doubts about their efficacy. Still, despite that, to be honest, I did hope at times for scented candles, massage and dolphin sounds in my delivery. They seemed like a sign of womanly prowess. I know better now.
Your post reminded me of when I frightened the life out of a nice young assistant at the Sony Centre. He asked how I planned to use my new Walkman and I replied: “To listen to while giving birth”. He scarpered in fright.
Suffice to say, the reality proved rather different to the rosepetals fantasy. Perhaps someone should get honest with women about what they’re going to face. Thank you for this posting. It’s made me smile.
http://www.motheratlarge.com
Little Mummy
April 28th, 2007 at 3:15 pm
3Nice to see a local doing the blogging thing
t-bird
April 30th, 2007 at 10:09 am
4I think my midwife tried (briefly) to get me to do the leaping out of bed hours after a c-section but got told fairly bluntly that me and baby were very comfy tucked up in bed and we were staying there thanks
Little Mummy
April 30th, 2007 at 10:42 am
5I wish I’d been as firm, they had to wheel me out of the shower after I just about fainted!
spymum
May 29th, 2007 at 6:47 am
6In my old neighbourhood there was only one CORRECT way to give birth. For this you would need (a) a very large tarpaulin, (b) a caring, sharing husband, (c) an independent midwife and (d) a large living room floor. Any other offspring were to be rounded up and made to watch the proceedings!
Once the newborn had arrived, the size 10 skinny jeans, sex the very next day etc made their appearance! And it was very importanat to boast loudly about how easy, quick and pain free it all was!
Thank God I moved! Lol!
Little Mummy
May 29th, 2007 at 7:02 am
7Well I’d have ‘failed’ on several counts!!
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