41 Weeks’ Pregnant and Counting….

By Little Mummy, June 30, 2006 10:14 am

An interview with Melissa Moonie. She is 41 weeks pregnant….yes 41 weeks. Here’s what I asked her….

What did you do for the sickness you had in the beginning?

I ate small and often, stuff like nutrigrain bars and rich teas. I also drank cooled boiled water because iced water just made it worse.

What are your top pregnancy tips?

Assume you will go late and then you won’t be disappointed!

Spread buying stuff and getting organised for the baby over the whole 9 months and then you will have stuff to do at the end and you won’t get bored.

When you start getting tired at work, go for a walk, or go outside and get some fresh air.


What have been your most valued things during your pregnancy?

Black loose trousers that I bought from the Next Directory for £16, in fact I bought two pairs.

Palmers cocoa butter, I have used it since 4 months and don’t have any stretch marks (lucky you)

What was your favourite shop for maternity clothes?

New Look, I bought normal stuff just in a bigger size, and a few things from the maternity range, which is really reasonably priced.

What about for baby stuff?

I bought loads of sleepsuits and vests from Tesco because it was quite cheap but still good value. I bought my moses basket and sterilizer from Argos. I wouldn’t have thought of going there but it was really good.

What has been your lowest moment?

Having sickness in the beginning and going overdue.

What has been the highest point?

When I was between 6 and 8 months, I had lots of energy and felt really healthy.

What advice would you give to others about surving 40+ weeks?

Keep a sense of humour! Plan something for everyday even if it is trivial stuff like housework or taking the dog for a walk, it gives you a reason to get out of bed.

And finally what advice would you give to the partner, family and friends of someone who is overdue?

Be prepared for mood swings and irritability. Talk about something other than the baby, like yourself and what you have been up to.

Mummy State: Midwife Intervention

By Little Mummy, June 29, 2006 1:20 pm

Since becoming a parent I have been quite surprised how much intervention there has been from health professionals.

So far it has gone something like this;

Midwife help in hospital, midwife visits for up to ten days after hospital, several health visits, several weigh-ins, 6 week check with doctor and health visitor, more weigh ins, three lots of jabs, a depression questionnaire carried out in my home and I have another visit to my home next week regarding weaning. Not to mention the monitoring of feeding, pooing, sleeping and everythingelse she does….

I suppose a lot of people may like this hand holding approach, but personally one of the reasons we had Erin was to provide new challenges, different experiences and the requirement to learn, master and make mistakes (within reason of course).

Is it just me or do other people feel that the level of intervention detracts from the enjoyment and challenge of parenting?

Trying For a Baby: Pregnancy Test Tips & Tricks

By Little Mummy, June 24, 2006 2:47 pm

Trying for a baby will either be great fun…….I mean……lots of sex and no worries like – ‘will I fall pregnant?’ or ‘who bought the condoms?’ (where’s the nearest 24hr garage?!!) ‘did I take my pill last Sunday when I was hungover all day?’………..Nope………It’s just a whole load of great sex and no worries…………….isn’t it?

Well maybe for you.

Or maybe (like me!) you’ve made the decision and you want to be pregnant now…..you don’t want to wait until when your period is due (or more sensibly a few days after) to do a pregnancy test. You want to do one now (just to make sure of course) even though you did one yesterday and the day before and your period isn’t even due until next week.

Yes I’ve been there, it was very frustrating and very expensive!

So here comes tip no.1. If you were nodding your head and smirking guiltily at the last paragraph then this applies to you.

Buy multipacks of ‘own brand’ pregnancy tests for testing when you are being ridiculous and testing way too soon…..(yes, I know you can’t help it), then, when your period is due have a couple of First Response (my chosen brand) to test with.

There is a difference between brands and how much HCG they can detect (how they tell if your pregnant). I did a First Response and had a positive….it took a further two days for an own brand test to show positive. So, if your desperate to know, it’s worth shelling out and buying the more expensive brand.

If you’re really obsessed you can search the internet, there are sites that will tell you which pregnancy tests detect the smallest amounts of HCG. The lower the better. Or save your time and effort – First Response was the most sensitive I found that was readily available on the high street.

Part 4 – Authentic – a Religion?

By Little Mummy, June 22, 2006 10:27 am

Religion – there I said it, are you cowering at what is to come. Or maybe it’s just me, because as soon as I hear the ‘R’ word in my house I know my husband is gonna be on a rant, a 5 minute one if I’m lucky….much much longer if not.

He is an atheist (my words not his), but it goes further than that, he vehemently discredits religion at any and all opportunities. He is not usually forceful with his opinions.

His main arguments roughly are; no proof of any God, believes that followers are misguided at best, weak willed at worst, religion being a major cause of war and hurt.

He is not a man without morals though; he believes in caring for his family, being faithful, working hard both in work and in being a good person, against violence and theft. Not because a book (the bible?) has told him too but because he knows these are the morals that equal a good person.

So back to Authentic Living, instead of a biblical 10 commandments, what if we were to replace them with our own promises.

I will care for my family as best I can; this will help society as I will rear children in a positive manner and hopefully the chances will be higher that they will become positive citizens and in turn their own children will be positive citizens

I will be faithful to my husband

I will not go to church on a Sunday, I will make this family time; doing something together (notice the first commandment in simple terms is to put God before any other, is God going to look after my baby?, is he taking active steps to rear good citizens to rid society of it’s evils?)

I will live within my means; (an important one in today’s society) where possible I will buy what I can afford and afford what I buy, by doing this I will not need to steal

I will endeavour to be a valuable member of society; If I see someone in trouble I will try and help, I will not turn my back.

Maybe if God were visible and active today (some may say that he is?, I say, if the eyes can’t see and the ears can’t hear then how do I know), then his commandments may have been updated to make them more relevant today. Maybe he/she would changed them to put family first, to live within one’s means, not to be so concerned with taking names in vain and attending church but to live a life that is good, and that makes us happy – surely that is more important?

For now then I will live my own life and make my own rules. I will live authenticly.

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Part 3 – The Happy Formula (Authentic)

By Little Mummy, June 21, 2006 9:58 am

Out of interest I did a search on the definition of the word ‘normal’.

The definition was ‘common’. The synonyms included ‘average’, ‘commonplace’, ‘general’, ‘ordinary’, ‘run-of-the-mill’, ‘standard’, ‘typical’ and ‘usual’.

Doesn’t sound that great does it. Being normal. So why does everyone want to be normal?

Social conditioning, familial and community acceptance.

Ok so we all want to be normal for good reasons but what is normal? Is your normal the same as my normal? Not everyone’s normal can possibly be the same because surely being normal is being and doing what is right…

‘There is no right than is more right than your right’ Neil Crofts

Now, then, we are not looking to find what is ‘normal’ but what is right…..for ourselves, and, of course our family.

What is right for me;

I have made a list. At the top will be what is most important down to what is less important (but still important) at the bottom. Erin is at the top over my husband only because she is more dependant on me.

Erin (her happiness and health)
My Husband (his happiness and health)
My Health (my happiness is Erin’s and Alex’ happiness and health – already on the list)
My Home (house and location)
Hobbies

* I have not included the rest of our family in this, of course they are very important to us all but I did not think it right to include them as I can’t be responsible for their happiness.

So if what is ‘right’ = happiness

The Happy Formula

Then happiness = Erin + My Husband +My Health + My Home+ Hobbies (being at optimum levels for supreme happiness)

Erin – In my mind (and my husband’s), will be most healthy and happy when she is loved and cared for by a family member, ideally me.

Therefore I must make looking after her my full time job (so to speak).

My Husband – He is happy when we (Erin and I) are happy, doing a job he enjoys and pursuing hobbies. Oh yes and he would also like a house with a drive to stop the car getting wrecked!

Therefore he must do a job he enjoys and I must make sure there is time for him to pursue hobbies outside work time.

My Health – I have Crohn’s Disease so this one can be particularly difficult. Smoking and stress are the main triggers.

Therefore I have given up smoking (over a year ago) and not working and rushing about means lower stress levels.

My Home – We would like to live in a more family friendly location, preferably in a house with a garden.

Therefore we need to earn enough money for this, so I have been working on a few projects from home and my husband makes sure that he is earning as much as he can whilst still doing a job he enjoys (because this is higher on the list than our home).

Hobbies -Alex’ hobbies, my hobbies, and doing activities that Erin enjoys.

Therefore to pursue hobbies you need time, so at least two days a week should be left free (providing monetarally we can afford to pay for essentials, house, food and bills).

Still with me?

So for my happiness; I must look after Erin, being a full-time mum. I must take care of as much of the home affairs as possible so that Alex can pursue hobbies outside of work (as much as is possible with a baby!). I should continue not to smoke and try and find work that I can do at home. We should keep at least two days free where possible to be a family and pursue hobbies.

That is what we should do, that is what we do, and that is why (for the most) we are happy.

This is not gloating, anyone can do this and work out what will make them happy and what is right for them. You might be surprised at how low money and material objects come on your list, and, if they are at the top, then you know what you have to do. Be a corporate slave and earn that cash. Good Luck.


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Part 2 – Authentic Choice

By Little Mummy, June 20, 2006 2:53 am

One of the central themes of Authentic Living is consumerism. In this post I will deal specifically with choice.

You may be wondering how choice is a problem. Surely having the ‘luxury’ of choice is a positive thing, and it is, but like most things – it’s best in moderation.

The problem today is that we have too much choice, just take a look at our shopping outlets, only a couple of generations back our relatives were doing all their grocery shopping on one street, probably between only four or five outlets; Butcher, Baker, Fishmonger, Greengrocers… and they could probably do the rest of their shopping on that street too.

Now look at our grocery outlets. Most people now shop in ‘Super’ markets, and, not content with just being super, they are also ‘Extra’.

In the largest stores you can literally buy anything. And everything. CD players next to scourers next to packet noodles next to children’s clothes and so on…..

Consumerism is a problem for Authentic Living as it drives us to earn more money to pay for more ‘stuff’, mostly stuff that you do not need and often that you do not really want (intoducing ebay – auction site for millions of unwanted items).

We’ve all done it , bought something on a whim, maybe it was a ‘bargain’ or it had gimmicky advertising, or it was ‘in fashion‘ (for about ten minutes). Stop for a moment and think about who drives fashion, who decides what is ‘fashionable’, and for how long…..does it feel that fashions/trends move a lot quicker now? Hmm why is that?

Ever heard anyone saying ‘I’m so indecisive’, ‘I can never make up my mind’, the problem here is too much choice, they are worried about making the wrong decision and missing out. I bet if you were to give someone only two alternatives they would find it much easier – I thought I’d test this theory.

Scenario; Person A is coming to visit soon. She is a self-confessed indecisive person.

Me: Hi, when you come up on Monday, what would you like for tea? You can choose anything you want and I will make it.

Person A: Oooohh…hmmmm, I don’t know (panic in her voice) mmmm………uhhhhh……..can you leave it with me? (It was just a quick question?)

Me: Ok, what if I said I only had Lasagne or Steak?

Person A: mmm Steak please.

That was a real conversation. Faced with too many possibilities/choices she hesitated, panicked even. She wanted to choose the best possible meal, she couldn’t choose any. However, faced with two options the decision was made in seconds, she was comfortable with this. A quick comparison could be made because there was no fear of missing out on something better.

Less choice led to more happiness not less. This is probably a surprise to most people.

The same principle applies to children, that is why we only give them two choices or a maximum of three, we don’t want them to be spoilt for choice.

Also as a result of having too much choice, we purchase more than we need. During the confusion of too many choices we can’t make up our minds, ‘I can’t decide’, ‘I’ll just take both’, sound familiar? Or have you ever done your food shopping and found that you have bought more than you can eat? or lots of products but nothing that makes an actual meal? Too much choice

The only solution is to limit our choices ourselves – you could argue that this is choice within itself, and it is, but what alternative do we have in a world of ever increasing choice and variety.

Less choice will make you happier and more content in the long run.

Of course less money = less choice, and I will discuss that further in Part 3

For now though just remember to be a person – your own person, and not merely just a consumer. You are who you are, your are not what you own.

Until next time….Have fun

Little Mummy

Part 1 – Introducing Authentic Living

Part 1 – Introducing Authentic Living

By Little Mummy, June 18, 2006 5:38 am

Authentic Living ; Living a life that’s right for you and that you are comfortable with. Doing a job that you love(whether that be bringing up your children, pursuing a hobby as a business, or writing a book). Spending more time on hobbies and with family. Making the most of what you have and not selling out for the things you don’t.

Just be yourself.

We’ve all found ourselves changing our character to suit work environment, family environment etc… the time we spend being ourselves is diminished and in it’s place a hollow, soulless person remains. A corporate junkie working until 11pm for the next fix; new car, promotion, latest gadget….missing out on the things that real happiness are made of – family, friendship, a sense of belonging, feeling adequate and loved.

Authentic living is about being yourself all of the time, putting yourself first as opposed to money, believing that there is an alternative to working 50+ hours a week, sweating your way to the next promotion only to find that the next step is just more work and another promotion.

Puree Recipe – Salmon

By Little Mummy, June 18, 2006 4:36 am

Ingredients;

Half a Salmon Fillet
1 x Potato
Half a Carrot
4 x Sugar Snap Peas or Mange Tout
1 x Babycorn

1. Chop vegetables into cubes

2. Cut salmon into large chunks

3. Steam for 15 mins

4. Blend in cooking juices.

Makes one large ice cube tray(equivalent of 3-4 jars).

Cost; 90p

Bottle Feeding = Bad Mother ?

By Little Mummy, June 18, 2006 4:17 am

I am bottle-feeding Erin.

What judgements have you made about me? Maybe you haven’t made any, are you bottle-feeding too? Or maybe you think I am a bad mother. Selfish. Don’t love my baby. More interested in being able to drink and eat what I want. Too lazy to get up in the night to do all the feeds.

Actually I have Crohn’s and the medication I am on would actually harm Erin if I breastfed her.

Why do I feel the need to defend myself every time someone mentions feeding? Surely it is each mother’s decision.

Now don’t be mistaken, I am not ‘against’ breastfeeding. I do not look on in disgust when I see a mother breastfeeding her baby, just as I don’t tut and look down on someone preparing their baby’s bottle.

I want to say ‘IT’S OK TO BOTTLE-FEED’, you don’t need to feel ashamed, you should not be spending a big part of your pregnancy worrying about breastfeeding or more to the point worrying what others will think of you if you don’t breastfeed. You have made, or will make a decision that is based on YOU, YOUR baby, and YOUR family, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty, whatever decision you make.

I have a couple of friends who are pregnant at the moment, and their main concern is not about the labour and birth, not about the prospect of becoming a mother, it is always about breastfeeding and the fact they are feeling pressured by midwives, health visitors and the media.

Please enough is enough, ‘breast is best’ but only if Mum is confident and happy to do it. After all do you not also tell us that “A happy mummy = A happy baby”.

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